My special interest: Dogs
Autistic me sees a book on a table tittled "Underwater Dogs"
Oh I didn't know there were dogs under water... Let me learn... "Opens book"...
Pictures of normal dogs in a pool or underwater. 
#autistic
#autism #actuallyautistic
#Neurodivergent #AutismAwareness #AutismAwarenessMonth #adhd #dogs #dog
I have ADHD and Autism. I suffer from executive dysfunction and severe social anxiety.
I'm taking a week off from work so I can finally talk to the insurance about fixing our basement that flooded in January 2024. It's been torn up and unusable since they ripped up the carpet, tore out the lower half of the drywall, and drained all the water over a year ago.
Our cats have been living in our sunroom.
We haven't watched TV because the wall where we mounted it is gone.
It's an urgent need but I have to take a week off in order to push through the multiple unscripted conversations it will take, to have the energy to let strangers into our house.
I am disabled.
I am.
So why do I keep thinking I'm broken?
Why do I tell myself to "try harder"?
Why do I feel like a failure as a wife, cat mom, and home keeper?
So much needs to be done and I just can't.
I can't.
And that's hard to admit.
It has to get done. Before my wife became disabled, we managed better. We were still not getting it all done, but we split duties. We supported each other.
Now she can't do what she used to. I understand that. I afford her a great deal of grace, kindness, and understanding.
She understands my limitations and doesn't nag or complain or fret.
I can't figure out how to give myself the same consideration.
"She deserves better."
"I should do better."
"I deserve better."
We all deserve better, especially right now.
We deserve better, but we have to settle for what we have.
Dammit! I always find the memes that are so damn relatable!
This is me.
Autistic community: What is ableism in your own words?
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#autistic
#autism #actuallyautistic
#Neurodivergent #AutismAwareness #AutismAwarenessMonth #adhd
thuis aan het werk. stom foutje gemaakt bij een agendadingetje, even herstellen. een telefoongesprek. gepland, dus prio. even wat drinken. wat zijn die ramen eigenlijk vies. en de galerij ook.
een uur later is de buitenboel brandschoon.
en mijn foutje bij het agendadingetje niet hersteld.
I always feel a little (or a lot) ashamed and guilty when other parents are so on top of things, like helping their kids make cards for other kids in the class, or give valentines to the whole class, or send birthday treats etc. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've done this. 
last year I didn't even manage a teacher's gift. 
I'm kind of glad some parents can do this, I just feel bad that I can't. #ADHD #parenting
The strong sense of justice in Autistic and ADHD people:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DHd2Zj2MzAA/?img_index=7&igsh=ampzaGtzYzZsczNj #justiceSensitivity #ADHD #AuDHD #Autistic #justice
The AJ Chronicles: 4 April 2025
Another week in the life of an autistic widower.
Mother’s Day upset; family deaths; virtual Easter eggs; feeling dizzy; young tailgater; grey hairs; cars, stress, and Grandad; 19 Oct – 25 Oct 2024 catch-up.
#family #life #death #grief #health #parenting #relationships #autism #adhd
https://open.substack.com/pub/soultoscribe/p/the-aj-chronicles-4-april-2025
Betydelsen av tidig upptäckt,
"I might have coped better with the negative first Ph.D. experience, for instance, and continued my studies in a related field rather than leaving academia—a decision that still affects how I am assessed in grant and job applications. And if I had understood the cause of my anxiety, I could have started the right treatment to manage it."
https://www.science.org/content/article/how-adhd-diagnosis-42-helped-me-get-my-career-back-track
Fucking relatable through and through...
https://www.science.org/content/article/how-adhd-diagnosis-42-helped-me-get-my-career-back-track
"My diagnosis was transformative—but it brought bitter regrets. I grieved for the life and career that could have been had my #ADHD been detected earlier. I might have coped better with the negative first Ph.D. experience, for instance, and continued my studies in a related field rather than leaving #academia—a decision that still affects how I am assessed in grant and job applications. And if I had understood the cause of my #anxiety, I could have started the right treatment to manage it." #science #dyslexia #dyscalculia
Normal brain: I can do anything I put my mind to.
ADHD brain: I can put my mind on anything, and do!
Jag oroar mig för synsättet att ökningen av antalet personer som diagnostiserats med ADHD (eller ADD), uppmärksamhetssvårigheter, enbart ska förstås som "en social konstruktion". Det är, tycker jag, så respektlöst mot personer som har stor hjälp av kombinationer av läkemedel och andra insatser.
Förkastligt att diagnoser säljs. Men inte förklaringen.
Tycker den här sammanfattningen av professorn i barn- och ungdomspsykiatrisk vetenskap, Sven Bölte, är läsvärd.
https://nyheter.ki.se/atta-skal-till-att-adhd-diagnoserna-okar
Thank Goodness for Neurological Differences
You ever just stop and appreciate how incredible and important it is that so many vastly different neurotypes exist? Like, there are people out there with special interests in, what to some people would be, the most off-the-wall, dull topics who are out there just improving everyone's lives simply by caring about something that few others do. There are folk who struggle to eat breakfast consistently and never learned their times tables, but expose them to something they're interested in and they become so incredibly fixated on it that they'll go without sleep to study it, work on it, and/or improve it until they're at the bleeding edge of the field because their ability to focus on something is either near-absent or a force of nature.
Meanwhile, conspiracy-brained neurotypicals who do nothing well but sophistry and emulating social cues are on stages and behind podiums talking about putting these intellectual weapons into camps, employers are losing what could be their top performers because they find the amount of eye-contact someone uses unsettling, or because someone shows up to work five minutes late a few times a week, for-profit education systems with steep fees and unnecessary course requirements keep people out of professions where they'd be star assets, and capitalism keeps people who could be improving lives struggling for survival.
What lives would we be living if we just gave people the space and resources to do what they care about?
wow. exploding synapse / explodierende synapsen:
IGORRR - ADHD
https://youtu.be/TGIvO4eh190
I think I figured out how to live with #adhd.
Learn to ride the waves. We have a different rhythm of existence. You can't fight the cycle, but you can learn to work with it.
Some people are marathon runners, but we are sprinters. The trick is to break down marathons into many sprints, and take breaks by switching your marathons.
Just pick half a dozen things your meta-self wants to work on and stick with it. Instead of a bit of everything, we do a lot of everything, but one thing at a time.
Programme on the wonderful Mhairi Black on BBC2 now. Catch up on
If anyone was wondering the state of paediatrics in Western Australia, I'm in Sydney with my child because that was the closest place with an open waitlist.
And that's paying to access the private system. The public waitlists are even worse.
#WAHealth #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic
:EA DATA. SF: 
